One thing that keeps me sane at work is the fact that I have two way good friends. Trish and Sarah.
Trish and I met at school, and we became instafriends when we found out that our parents knew each other(She grew up in Nelson, my dad is from Nelson, I spent alot of time growing up in Nelson) Her and I always have so much fun, I heart her! she's awesome! Our parents use to hang out together, and my nana and her grandma lived down the street from each other. Our cousins dated. It's just too funny that in a city of a bazillion we met.
Sarah started working here in November. We started hanging out cause she was on the same break schedule as Trish and I. She has the same sense of humor that we do. So we instantly liked her. She's from BC too.
Anyways, we always fill each other in on our lives at lunch, and tell stories, and just laugh. Most people who are around up during our breaks think we're 5 years old. It's awesome tho, cause we seriously just laugh all the time. We hang out, outside of work and we always have so much fun.
We were having lunch together today, and we were talking about relationships, and about different things pertaining to relationships. So most of you know I don't really blog about dating on here, one reason is I have a first date curse. I don't usually get past a first date. Sometimes it's cause I'm not interested, or cause they're not interested. Who really wants to hear about that?, but I only usually blog about dates that have gone wrong. They're funny and make for good posts. Anyways, we were talking about the types of daters we are. After much 'bashing' on their part I've realized that I'm a pretty close minded person when it comes to people I like/date. Here is the low down on Lachele as seen by Trish/Sarah.
-I am a close minded dater. I don't give people chances.(TRUE) I will NOT go on a date with someone if I don't know them. It creates unneeded worrying (ie: what are they thinking, I need to be on my BEST behavior, I don't want him to pay, etc) If I meet someone, hang out with them a few times then go on a date with them, that's different we already have established some sort of relationship. But if we're starting from scratch it's just too annoying, I'd rather just hang out in a judgemental free environment, AND if I've hung out with the person and I'm not really diggin it, I won't go on an actual date with them. It's a waste of my time, and a waste of theirs.
-I don't like the excuse "well atleast it's a free dinner" I work, I can buy my own dinner thank you very MUCH.
-I usually am only interested in one person at a time. I've always been like this. I'm not a serial dater, and I never will be. I think I'm too picky to be a serial dater.
-Dating people I'm not interested in is just a BIG headache.
-I'm not really looking for anything serious right now.
-I've never had my heart broke. I've had my pride hurt BIG time so it's made me more cautious. I'm not too sure why.
-Dating is a big pain in the rear, lots of people say it's a nice way to get to know someone. I do NOT agree. I think it's stupid :)--I am not bitter whatsoever. I just think there are better ways of getting to know someone.
-I think a date is the WORST way to see a persons 'true' colors. I'm always on my VERY best behavior. I say alot of things I'm sure that they'd like to hear so they get a good impression of me. I'd like someone to see me when I'm playing sports, or when I'm just being goofy and think it's cute AND thats WHY they want to go out with me.
-Yes, I eventually get married, and YES, I realize that if I keep up with this mentality that I will be the last person on the face of the earth married.
-I'm pretty good at keeping my emotions out of the situation, and when I feel like they're getting too involved I always create some sort of drama to back away ie:arguing, bickering, ignoring. I don't need to like someone, only to have them reject me. That's no fun. Like I said I've had my pride hurt before. I've learned my lesson. I was talking to my friend about this the other day. She said "sometimes people put up walls, not to keep people out. But to see who cares enough to break them down." True. Maybe that's what I'm doing. If I know that a guy is interested in me, it's really easy for me to say yay or nay, I'm not the one who is going to get butthurt this way.
-I like to think that this is the safe way to play, but it's also pretty risky. I've been told on several occasions(last night being most recent) that IF you don't risk it, you might miss it. Ha. Well good thing I believe that there is more than one person out there for me. I might have already missed it, but I'm only 24 and so I'm pretty sure I have lots of time.
This sounds pretty sad huh? But really it's not. I've been making ALOT of girl friends lately. It's just what I need right now. I don't need a boyfriend. I don't need as many guy friends either anymore. They're sooo transient at this stage in life. They get serious gfs/wives and ditch their girlfriends, which is the way it should be, so I've gone thru a number of guy friends. Atleast I can keep my girl friends when they get married :) As we can tell I don't really have time/can handle one right now. I know that I need to change some of the ways I go about dating. Sarah said I need to ease up on the close minded business. I agree. I will try.
Goal #1. I will make more of an effort to not be so close minded. I still would like to know the person before I go out with them. Then there aren't as many awkward silences. :)
Goal #2. To give people a chance. Just because I'm not interested in them RIGHT then, I might be once I get to know them(hopefully in a casual setting)
Hmmm, I've decided two goals is good enough. I'm curious to hear your takes on the way I date/handle guys/relationships. What works for you guys? Comment away PLEASE!